A 2014 survey of 3,000 adults found that men often reach orgasm with familiar partners, while only 63% of women do. This orgasm gap widens with less familiar partners.
So, ladies, let’s continue to close the orgasm gap!
There are many positions that can make it easier for women to experience pleasure, such as today’s featured position—the Cowgirl, also known as the woman-on-top or the cowgirl position.
“Cowgirl is often a favorite among women because it allows a woman to have more control during the sexual experience, allowing her to move more freely,” says Rachel Smith, LMFT, a couples and sex therapist in private practice.
The cowgirl position is the easiest to orgasm in, and I’ll explain why and list some tips for mastering the technique. Let’s saddle up and pull up the reins of pleasure.
01. How to do Cowgirl?
- Your partner lies on their back with their legs straight.
- You sit astride them, facing their head.
- While sitting upright, insert your partner’s penis or toy inside.
You can choose different speeds, depths, and angles to help you find the feeling that suits you best.
02. Why is Cowgirl easier to orgasm?
- Take control. Women can find and control the perfect angle and rhythm for intense pleasure.
- This position allows friction between the clitoris and the vagina, which is the key to orgasm. In a 2015 survey, 37% of women could only orgasm through clitoral stimulation during sex. (See clitoral stimulation techniques)
- This position allows for deeper penetration to hit the A-spot, and can also change the angle to hit the G-spot, while using toys to massage the C-spot (clitoris), greatly increasing women’s satisfaction. (See how to find the G-spot quickly)
- This position allows for more room for play, freeing up more hands for caressing and massage.
03. 6 tips on how to move/shake
Kneeling is not squatting! Don’t be misled by porn movies. You don’t have to squat in and out and bounce up and down unless you are a stuntman or athlete. In my experience, the best way to master the cowgirl position is to use your hips or hips to lead the force, not your legs, lean forward slightly, rock and push your hips back and forth, and find the pleasure of rubbing your clitoris against your partner’s pubic bone.
If you guys just like the bouncing squat position, my advice is that the correct angle is very important, don’t bounce too high or too fast. Studies show that the position that causes the most penis fractures is cowgirl.
A simple variation, as shown above, is to lean back so that you can hit the G-spot more easily. At the same time, add toys to the game, support one hand on the bed or on your partner’s legs, and use the toy with the other hand to massage the C-spot.
Another simple variation is to lean forward, which may better massage the C point (depending on each person’s body structure).
The third variation is very close to each other, so it can be done when you want to have intimate contact. Just start from the Cowgirl position and have the person entering sit up.
Finally, let me share a detail about the principle of leverage: the support point of your hand can be placed on the bed, or you can place your hand directly on his chest or pectoral muscles, which is very sexy.
3 tips on mindset
- Remember that you have the right to control your desires and pleasure. If you have felt that this position was awkward or embarrassing before, I want to tell you that you are not the only one. Many of my sisters have this idea. The reason may be that you are not used to showing certain angles of your body, or you are just not sure how to make each other more comfortable.
- Don’t care about your appearance. Believe me, your partner will like to see you enjoy it.
- You don’t have to like it. Bobo always told me that 50% of his happiness comes from me having fun. No position is liked by everyone, so it is important to try and communicate.
- If you pursue the peak of pleasure-orgasm, then the addition of sucking toys, combined with the correct use, can increase the chance of orgasm to 99%.
04. Cowgirl Advanced
Congratulations on getting the Cowgirl Junior License! Here are two bonus advanced techniques for you to learn and apply to enrich your list of poses.
Reverse Cowgirl
A classic variation on the Cowgirl. A back-to-back version of the traditional Cowgirl.
Tips：
- You can ask your partner to bend one knee and rub the C-spot on the thigh to increase the pleasure of the clitoris. At the same time, this position will limit the man’s mobility, which means that he can last longer.
- You can also lean back and bend your knees for support to form another cowgirl variation.
Sitting Lotus：
This is a great position for intimacy, eye contact, kissing, and caressing. The partner sits cross-legged on the bed, and the woman sits on the partner’s lap with her legs wrapped around it.
This position doesn’t allow for much thrusting, but you can rock or circle to subtly stimulate deep areas, such as the A-spot.
Tips:
The woman can lean back and support herself with her hands on the bed, which makes it easier to hit the G-spot.
Trying new positions can spark the fire between you and your partner. When you’re both willing to experiment and explore some new territory, you’ll find that you create a unique atmosphere of intimacy for each other, which can only make sex more pleasurable and more likely to lead to mutual satisfaction and happiness. So go ahead and add Cowgirl to your arsenal of positions!
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