Clitoris, also known as C-spot (Clitoris), bean, joy bean (?)
About 75% of women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm.
This is also the main reason why many women have had sex but never orgasmed.
The clitoris is the only organ in the human body that exists purely for sexual pleasure, says Windasha Jenkins Hall, Ph.D., a sex educator and researcher in Atlanta, Georgia.
According to a 2023 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, it contains more than 10,000 nerve endings in total, more than anywhere else in the vulva.
That dense concentration of nerve endings gives it its sensual power.
In other words, when it comes to next-level sexual experiences, clitoral stimulation takes the lead.
It’s a must for most women to orgasm.
My girlfriend, Lisa, is one of those girls who needs clitoral massages to orgasm, and when we make it a regular part of our sex life, I swear, it really makes both of us enjoy it more.
So are you ready to learn the clitoral techniques that will give her (or yourself) the sweetest time ever?
With this complete, comprehensive guide to clitoral massage, you too can become a clitoral expert!
Clitoris Touching Techniques
Massaging the clitoris is a bit like doing a massage to set bones. The same technique and strength will not work for everyone, and everyone’s structure is different.
Some people crave direct stimulation, while others are too sensitive.
The real way to understand is to communicate with your partner. Of course, you can try the techniques directly and observe carefully how you (your partner) feels.
No matter which technique you use, it is highly recommended to use lubrication for protection and a better experience!
Tip 1: V-stroke
This is great for those who don’t like direct stimulation or when warming up for foreplay.
Use a lubricated finger to slide around the clitoris in a V-shape, sliding down on one side and up on the other.
You can also use two fingers to slide both sides at the same time.
Tip 2: Circling
This is another great technique that doesn’t involve direct contact with the clitoris.
With one lubricated finger, slide in circles around the edge of the clitoris.
You can start with larger circles and gradually move closer to the clitoris or vary the size.
Tip 3: Up, down, left, and right
This is probably what most people think of when they think of massaging the clitoris – either sliding your fingers side to side or up and down over the clitoris.
This is more intense than the first two techniques because it involves direct stimulation, so make sure your partner enjoys it!
Be careful not to go all out with pressure and speed, be gentle and let your partner guide you to more pressure as they wish.
Tip 4: Eavesdropping
This is another direct stimulation that involves tapping your partner’s clitoris in a rhythmic manner.
Use your fingertips to gently tap your partner’s clitoris.
You can then ask your partner if they want it harder or slower/faster.
Tip 5: Coverage
Some people prefer precise stimulation, like a dot pen or bullet vibrator, while others prefer broad stimulation, like an AV wand.
The same goes for fingers! If you find that your partner prefers broad stimulation, you can try using two or three fingers at once instead of just one.
Tip 6: Happy Slide
This technique focuses stimulation on the shaft of the internal clitoris, which can also feel very pleasurable.
A little behind the clitoris, find the clitoral shaft with your thumb and index finger. You can gently squeeze it and make very gentle movements.
The sensation may be similar to a guy’s “shot airplane“.
Additional Tips from Callimis:
In addition to figuring out which techniques your partner likes best, I have a few other practice tips for taking your clitoral massage game to the next level.
- Don’t rush to orgasm. Start with low, slow, and indirect stimulation, then work your way up to more intense stimulation as your partner desires.
- If they’re close to orgasm, you should stick with the same technique, same speed, same pressure—no variations.
- When your partner orgasms, don’t stop immediately, slow down, relax a bit, but stay in contact unless they ask you not to or pull away.
- Throw in a pleasure toy, and you’ll likely get twice the result with half the effort.
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